For families, divorce can present devastating challenges especially for the children involved. Unsurprisingly, divorce becomes no easier when it prefaces major holidays. Newly separated parents may feel great remorse when trying to pick up the pieces and resume a sense of normalcy in their homes for themselves, and for their children. Here is some important advice to keep peace and fun during the holidays.
Focus on Your Relationship with Your Child. Even for a parent, it may be hard to readjust the holiday script after a divorce. You may keep old expectations of how things were before the divorce. Here, it is important to remember that you are in uncharted territory, and having unrealistic expectations can get hopes up and crush spirits for both you and your child. You may expect your partner to pull their weight and both parties work together to keep their children happy—but this too can lead to further disappointment and even conflict. From here on out, you need to base your actions on developing the relationship between your child and you. What many parents struggle with, is understanding that the old relationship you had with your child has been shattered, and once broken, you can’t really recreate what once was there. You need to focus on building your new relationship with your child. This new frame of mind will help you as you trudge forward through the holidays. Keep Busy and Create New Traditions. Now that you understand the frame of mind needed to take on the holiday season, it’s time to start building that new relationship with your child. You need to understand that your child is going through as much turmoil as you feel, if not even more so. The best remedy for your child, and even yourself will be to have fun during the holidays. Caroling, shopping sprees, spontaneous trips, playing in the snow—anything that allows both you and your child to move around and keep your mind and body as busy as possible. Now might be a good time to create new holiday traditions to share with your child. You might just be feeling around on solid ground now, but take note what activities resonate with you and your child, and you can continue that activity next year and so on.

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